The 8 Dimensions of Wellness – Social

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Social Wellness refers to our relationships and how we interact with other people. It involves good communication skills, respect for self and others, meaningful relationships and a good support system. According to a study by Umberson & Montez, relationships influence health through a process of reinforcing or inhibiting health-promoting or health-damaging behaviors over time. The bible is full of verses about all relationships. One of which is Proverbs 17:17, which says that a friend loves at all times; and a brother is born for adversity. Genesis 2:18 says the following: The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Our relationships are important, even from God’s perspective.

The bible gives some good standards for our various relationships.

  1. Husband & Wife relationship:Ephesians 5:22-33; Colossians 13:18 &19
  2. Children & Parents: Ephesians: 6: 1-3
  3. Fathers & Children: Ephesians 6:4
  4. Church family: Colossians 3:12- 14
  5. Friends: Proverbs 27:5 – 6; John 15:12-15
  6. Employer & employee: Colossians 3:23; Deuteronomy 15:10; Deuteronomy 24:14

Oftentimes our relationships are mirrors that reflect the inner-workings or hidden areas of our souls. The soul is like a magnet that draws our circumstances to us. If you find that your relationships have a common theme of joy and endurance, then I’m 99.999% sure that you have mastered 2 Corinthians 10:5; and Philippians 4:8. However, if you’re like many of us who are still learning to bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ and thinking on love and positive things; then take this opportunity to make a solid decision to begin healing these toxic thoughts, feelings and emotions that have habitually created less-than-desirable circumstances in your relationships. As children, we learned how to relate to others from our family members; as well as from teachers, friends, and other group members that we were associated with. If what we’ve learned was unhealthy or dysfunctional, we can change it. Healthy relationships are ours to enjoy; as well as a component of overall wellness.

If you would like to strategies for improving the social area of wellness in your life, do consider joining me for my next All is Wellness program session beginning on March 18th. Please feel free to email me at theexcellentwoman1@gmail.com. Until next time…..many blessings!

This Thing Called Love

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Mark 12:30 & 31 (NIV) says: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” As I thought on these verses, my mind rested on a vision that I recently had during my morning prayer time. I found myself at the feet of God as He sat on His throne. I then was cradled in His arms. I remember feeling the love radiating throughout my being. After being loved on by God, for what seemed like a little while, I found myself standing before His throne. He placed what seemed like a force-field around me. I immediately thought of my eldest son; and he suddenly appeared cradled in God’s loving arms. My son had bumped his head hard the day before. In this vision, I saw God gently rub my son’s head and a golden substance flowed from His hand to my son’s head. God then kissed him, and placed him within my force-field. One-by-one, each of my children appeared cradled in God’s arms; and he hugged and kissed them; and placed them each within my force-field. Lastly, my husband appeared in God’s arms. He did the same; and then placed my husband and his force-field around all of us. 

My reason for sharing this part of the vision, is to illustrate the Mark 12:30 & 31 principle. We can only love God, because of His first loving us. His love fills us and overflows to our neighbors. We can only love God by His strength alone (Philippians 4:13); and only with His love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). We can’t love ourselves or others without His love. Love begins with Him. It’s His love that gives us our identity and that makes us loveable. He sees us as the apple of His eye (Zechariah 2:8, Proverbs 7:2, Psalm 17:8); and His treasured possession (Deuteronomy 7:6, 14:2, 26:18, Psalm 135:4). When we think about ourselves the way that God does, we automatically love ourselves and bring healing an order to our thoughts, body and circumstances. We automatically love our neighbors because of God’s love.

Neighbors refer to anyone who is not you (at least that’s the way that I define it for my children). In this particular post, I’m referring to spouses as our neighbors. Sometimes, marriage can be challenging when spouses are not on the same page; or if either spouse is distracted. Please take comfort in knowing that God has our backs; and is with us every step of the way. We must renew our minds to know that marriage is honorable, esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear – in all things (Hebrews 13:4). The “high thought” of our culture about marriage is to just get out of it; if it’s not working to your satisfaction. Here’s the thing, people seem to understand that businesses, education and success in general, take years to obtain. It’s accepted and expected that there will be highs and lows, good times and not-so-great times; but you don’t give up. Marriage, just like new businesses, is like birthing a baby. You’ll often hear entrepreneurs refer to their businesses as their babies. Marriage is the same. If something’s not working, you evaluate and strategically plan to improve that area. You set goals, put standard operating procedures in place. You do all that you can to ensure the success of the marriage. It amazes me that people go to training and workshops, work long hours and such for the success of their careers; but somehow think that marriage is just going to just be successful. If no has told you before, things don’t work that way. You are supposed to have a successful marriage; but it’s probably going to require you to fight the good fight of faith (1 Timothy 6:12).

Psalm 34:19 (KJV) says: Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. We are guaranteed victory! The scriptures are filled with encouragement for victory; as well as God’s love and faithfulness. We see it with Joseph in the prison, Daniel in the lion’s den, and the 3 Hebrew boys in the fire pit (just to name a few). They all endured some HARD circumstances, but they all overcame and were elevated.

Marriage was instituted by God, so I’m quite confident that yours will workout when you follow His lead. 1 Peter 3:8-9 (AMP) is a good guideline: Finally, all [of you] should be of one and the same mind (united in spirit), sympathizing [with one another], loving [each the others] as brethren (of one household), compassionate and courteous—tenderhearted and humble-minded. Never return evil for evil or insult for insult—scolding, tongue-lashing, berating; but on the contrary blessing—praying for their welfare, happiness and protection, and truly pitying and loving them. For know that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing [from God]—obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection. Invest in yourself and your spouse by spending time with God. You will begin to think like God, concerning your marriage. God is THE  ultimate mastermind; and He knows how to turn around your marriage….. in 24 hours. With Him, EVERYTHING is possible. Do you believe it?!

The 8 Dimensions of Wellness – Environmental

Environmental Wellness is defined by SAMHSA as: “Good health by occupying pleasant, stimulating environments that support well-being.”  How are the environments that surround you? Are they pleasant, stimulating and orderly, or unpleasant, uninspiring and chaotic? There have been a number of published studies about the effect of environment of health. One of which was a 2010 study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, that measured the way women talked about their homes.  Those who characterized their homes as cluttered and brimming with unfinished projects, were at a higher risk of being depressed and exhausted, than women who described their homes as restful and restorative. What does the bible have to say about our environment? 1 Corinthians 14:40 says: But all things should be done decently and in order. Additionally, 1 Corinthians 14:33 states: For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.

When I read scripture, I like to analyze it and see how it presently applies to my life. I ask questions. What’s the consequence of things being done inadequately and disordered or messy? OR, If God is not a God of confusion (disorder, chaos, messiness), then WHO is? If God is a God of peace, and He’s always with me (Hebrews 13:5), then my environment should be one of peace, since it reflects my inner thoughts. Does anyone else think like this or is it just me? I understand that our homes, cars, etc. get out-of-order from time-to-time; but to living in perpetual state of clutter and disorganization is an invitation to address the root cause of this outer manifestation. We were designed to live in peaceful and orderly environments…..that’s why Adam and Eve were placed in the Garden of Eden. I’m pretty sure that it was a place of peace, order and pleasantness.

If you are a person who deals with a perpetually disordered environment, kudos to you for reading thus far. There is help and hope for you. In so many words, Albert Einstein said that you can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it. Romans 12:2 says it like this: “…..be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Soooo, you have to  work on your thoughts….as well as a system for cleaning and keeping things in order. Set aside a few minutes daily to affirm yourself with Philippians 4:13 (I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me). You can keep your environments orderly by God’s strength within you. There are a plethora of cleaning schedules on Pinterest; as well as organization videos on YouTube. You can also hire a cleaning person/service and/or an organization expert to help you out.

The way that you take care of your environments is just as important as the way that you take care of your physical health, finances and the other five wellness dimensions. Blessings as you continue on your path in excellence!

 

Hearing God’s Voice

About a month ago, we bought my baby girl a pair of new blue sneakers. Last week, one of those shoes went missing. I knew that she had it on her foot when I put her in the car after leaving the library. I figured that maybe it had fallen off in the car somewhere. I searched the car a couple of times during the week; and wondered where I’d left it. Meanwhile, I looked in the container where I keep things that she’ll grow into, and was happy to find a brand new pair of little black boots that her older cousin had gotten for her last year, when she was just an infant. She could fit them, yaaaayyyy!!! She’s been wearing them all week. Though I didn’t know where her other blue sneaker was, I didn’t worry about it.

So today, we went back to the library (since Thursdays are library day for us). As I’m getting ready to unload the kids, my second son excitedly exclaims: “Look mommy!!!! There’s Livy’s shoe!!!” I look up, and sure enough, Livy’s shoe is sitting in the window of the bank, right next to the library! At that moment, I just praised God (YHWH) and thanked Him for always looking out for and taking care of me. My heart was instantly filled with gratitude and praise. Upon leaving the library, my mind returned to that very moment, and I couldn’t help but to think about the ways that God speaks to us. Receiving back my baby girl’s shoe spoke volumes to my heart. I could see how God is interested in the smallest details of my life. I could see that He took care of that tiny blue shoe for seven days; and gave it back to me in perfect condition. I could see that during the seven days, I discovered a new pair of shoes that I wasn’t even aware was there. I could see that God gave me double……1. He restored the seemingly lost blue shoe and saved me the $20 to replace them & 2. He showed me a pair of shoes that I didn’t even know was there. The entire winter would have passed by; and I wouldn’t have thought to even look in that bin for those boots. Can we say that God is good!

I am so grateful for the ability to discern & hear God’s voice. I read a Facebook post in a group that I’m member of. The question was: “Has anyone heard the audible voice of God?” I certainly have on three different occasions in my life. One of those occasions was when I was walking across a parking lot one afternoon, thinking about how I felt like a failure, because of a seemingly poor decision that I’d made. He so very clearly said: “MY grace is sufficient for you.” I did not grasp the dept of that statement until two years later, and it set me free and it CHANGED. MY. LIFE. There is NOTHING that we could EVER do that is too bad for God’s grace. I am a living witness! Hallelujah! God also speaks in my dreams & visions. I go through seasons where I will dream or have night visions every night for a couple of weeks. The thing that I love about dreams is that they are SO personal. God…..the Creator of the universe,  knows us inside and out; and these dreams of personal riddles that He gives us. Proverbs 25:2 says: It is the glory of God to conceal a matter and the glory of kings to search it out. Interpreting a dream is like putting together the pieces of a puzzle. I was dreaming so much, that I had to begin searching out their meanings; because I knew that God was talking to me. These dreams have driven me to seek God for understanding. They have caused me to meditate the word. They have been prophetic. God has warned me in a dream to not get ahead of Him. I remember one night, I saw 2 Corinthians 9:8 (in bold letters) in a dream. I woke up immediately and looked it up. I began to meditate the scripture, because God wanted to do something that took a lot of faith.

So previously I talked about God’s audible voice. Well after the parking lot experience, I began seeing quarters, dimes, nickels and $5 bills so frequently for a period of 2 years. In that same parking lot, during that same week, a $5 bill blew under my car. Whenever I would go to put gas in my car, a quarter would always be on the ground, under next to my car. Another time, I was walking with my husband, and a $5 bill blew right into my chest. Whenever and where ever I would go during those two years, I was coming across money in a multiple of five; which is the number of grace…..which truly was and still is, sufficient for me.

Let’s also remember that God speaks through His word. He has a solution for every problem, circumstance and situation that you will EVER encounter…..even if you haven’t made the best decisions, you’re angry with Him & haven’t talked to Him in a while, or your life is in shambles. God is constantly speaking. He’s ALWAYS trying to get His very best to us. It’s our own minds that block His best for us….but there’s a way around that too (check out 2 Corinthians 10:5). Oh…..one more thing…..HONESTY. God LOVES honesty. You don’t have to be the best prayer or an eloquent speaker. You can talk to God, just like you’re talking to another person; and if you sit and listen, He’ll respond. Sometimes we don’t hear Him, because we have too many other voices in our heads……from t.v., movies, radio, social media and other people. Learn to disconnect from those voices; so that you can hear THE VOICE.

That’s all for now. Have an excellent evening and Friday!

Doing What You Don’t Want To Do

A couple of years ago, I was a full-time SAHM, had 3 part-time jobs; as well as a home-based fitness business…..and a new baby (in addition to two toddlers). I heard a familiar inner voice say to me to stop working. I thought to myself: “This must be the devil.” But then, I heard it again and I knew Who it was. I REALLY didn’t want to stop working. I enjoyed my line of work; and I had worked my entire adult life, and was self-sufficient. Therein lied the problem. I was SELF-sufficient. I relied on myself, rather than on God. I was terrified to give up control. Although I loved my husband, I didn’t want to be a burden to him or have to rely on him financially. Reluctantly, I began letting go of my jobs one-by-one. When it came down to the last one, I tried; but my sweet supervisor offered me some time off, before I made the final decision. So, I took a 3 month hiatus;  meanwhile, attended a faith conference. Throughout this conference, random people (who I had never met before) would come up to me and give me money; as well as  give me compliments on my mothering skills. It was then that I knew, that God was encouraging me to trust Him; as well as showing me that He would provide for and take care of me. When I returned home from that trip, I resigned from my last job; and business.

I knew that I was called to home school my children; and so began to focus more on that; as well as homemaking, and spending more time with God. I set about reading more books….one of which was Lisa Bevere’s “Nurture: Give and Get what You Need To Flourish.” I started to understand the importance of mothering and encouraging other women…..on another level. Shortly after concluding that book, I developed some very close relationships with other women (particularly mothers). They began to draw this new-found knowledge and my gift of encouragement out of me. When I was focused on all of my jobs and business, I was distracted from God’s purpose…..for why He put me here for such a time as this.

From there, I formed a home school group, and have met so many other mothers who were interested in homeschooling, a relationship with God, or health & wellness. I’ve also been blessed to be in a community where many of the mothers that I meet are so kind, compassionate and helpful. I’ve met moms who were going through financial hardship, emotional pain from unspeakable trauma, marital challenges, health issues, children taken away, as well as other difficulties. There are three things that these ladies can always be assured of: 1. I do not share our conversations with anyone else, 2. I pray for them and 3. There is always a solution to EVERY problem.

This year, I’ve read and studied even more books; and discovered a passion for neuroscience (thanks to Dr. Caroline Leaf). I am ABSOLUTELY FASCINATED by the spirit/soul/ body connection, and had an idea to create a wellness program that encompasses this connection; as well as the Eight Dimensions of Wellness….. from a biblical perspective. My new program is entitled the: ALL IS WELLness program, after the words uttered by the Shunammite woman in 2 Kings 4. She spoke these powerful words, even though her circumstances seemed anything but well. The program is 9 weeks (63 days, 3 cycles of 21 days); because it takes 63 days (3 cycles of 21 days) to form a habit. The purpose of the program is to empower (especially) women and mothers to transform their lives, by changing their thoughts.

According to a 2005 article printed by the National Science Foundation, people think an average of 20,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day; of which 80% are negative and 95% are repeated daily. Uhhmmmm…..that’s kind of a BIG problem. Our negative thoughts create actual toxic things in our brains; which ultimately results in dis-ease in our bodies. Romans 12:2 says not to be conformed to this world; but be transformed by the renewing of our minds. In other words: Don’t think like everyone else with the negative thoughts. We do have the mind of Christ/Messiah according to 1 Corinthians 2:16. Commit to live above the influence of negativity; so that you can transform your life. Also, there’s 3 John 1:2 – Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in ALL things and be in good health, even as your soul prospers. Your soul comprises your mind, will and emotions. When it is healthy and non-toxic, ALL things in your life will prosper; as well as your health. It’s great to have nice things, have the ability to purchase both what you need and wan, as well as to be beautiful (or presentable) on the outside; BUT if you’re stressed out, have more month at the end of your money, questionable health, can’t stand certain people, have nagging ailments, yell at your kids, unhappy with yourself, etc., then your soul is NOT prospering. Here’s your opportunity to get your life on track to being transformed!

In closing, it is my sincerest hope, that you would join me for this life changing ALL IS WELLness program, beginning on 1/7/19. For more information, email me at theexcellentwoman1@gmail.com. Have an awesome week!