Doing What You Don’t Want To Do

A couple of years ago, I was a full-time SAHM, had 3 part-time jobs; as well as a home-based fitness business…..and a new baby (in addition to two toddlers). I heard a familiar inner voice say to me to stop working. I thought to myself: “This must be the devil.” But then, I heard it again and I knew Who it was. I REALLY didn’t want to stop working. I enjoyed my line of work; and I had worked my entire adult life, and was self-sufficient. Therein lied the problem. I was SELF-sufficient. I relied on myself, rather than on God. I was terrified to give up control. Although I loved my husband, I didn’t want to be a burden to him or have to rely on him financially. Reluctantly, I began letting go of my jobs one-by-one. When it came down to the last one, I tried; but my sweet supervisor offered me some time off, before I made the final decision. So, I took a 3 month hiatus;  meanwhile, attended a faith conference. Throughout this conference, random people (who I had never met before) would come up to me and give me money; as well as  give me compliments on my mothering skills. It was then that I knew, that God was encouraging me to trust Him; as well as showing me that He would provide for and take care of me. When I returned home from that trip, I resigned from my last job; and business.

I knew that I was called to home school my children; and so began to focus more on that; as well as homemaking, and spending more time with God. I set about reading more books….one of which was Lisa Bevere’s “Nurture: Give and Get what You Need To Flourish.” I started to understand the importance of mothering and encouraging other women…..on another level. Shortly after concluding that book, I developed some very close relationships with other women (particularly mothers). They began to draw this new-found knowledge and my gift of encouragement out of me. When I was focused on all of my jobs and business, I was distracted from God’s purpose…..for why He put me here for such a time as this.

From there, I formed a home school group, and have met so many other mothers who were interested in homeschooling, a relationship with God, or health & wellness. I’ve also been blessed to be in a community where many of the mothers that I meet are so kind, compassionate and helpful. I’ve met moms who were going through financial hardship, emotional pain from unspeakable trauma, marital challenges, health issues, children taken away, as well as other difficulties. There are three things that these ladies can always be assured of: 1. I do not share our conversations with anyone else, 2. I pray for them and 3. There is always a solution to EVERY problem.

This year, I’ve read and studied even more books; and discovered a passion for neuroscience (thanks to Dr. Caroline Leaf). I am ABSOLUTELY FASCINATED by the spirit/soul/ body connection, and had an idea to create a wellness program that encompasses this connection; as well as the Eight Dimensions of Wellness….. from a biblical perspective. My new program is entitled the: ALL IS WELLness program, after the words uttered by the Shunammite woman in 2 Kings 4. She spoke these powerful words, even though her circumstances seemed anything but well. The program is 9 weeks (63 days, 3 cycles of 21 days); because it takes 63 days (3 cycles of 21 days) to form a habit. The purpose of the program is to empower (especially) women and mothers to transform their lives, by changing their thoughts.

According to a 2005 article printed by the National Science Foundation, people think an average of 20,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day; of which 80% are negative and 95% are repeated daily. Uhhmmmm…..that’s kind of a BIG problem. Our negative thoughts create actual toxic things in our brains; which ultimately results in dis-ease in our bodies. Romans 12:2 says not to be conformed to this world; but be transformed by the renewing of our minds. In other words: Don’t think like everyone else with the negative thoughts. We do have the mind of Christ/Messiah according to 1 Corinthians 2:16. Commit to live above the influence of negativity; so that you can transform your life. Also, there’s 3 John 1:2 – Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in ALL things and be in good health, even as your soul prospers. Your soul comprises your mind, will and emotions. When it is healthy and non-toxic, ALL things in your life will prosper; as well as your health. It’s great to have nice things, have the ability to purchase both what you need and wan, as well as to be beautiful (or presentable) on the outside; BUT if you’re stressed out, have more month at the end of your money, questionable health, can’t stand certain people, have nagging ailments, yell at your kids, unhappy with yourself, etc., then your soul is NOT prospering. Here’s your opportunity to get your life on track to being transformed!

In closing, it is my sincerest hope, that you would join me for this life changing ALL IS WELLness program, beginning on 1/7/19. For more information, email me at theexcellentwoman1@gmail.com. Have an awesome week!

The 8 Dimensions of Wellness – Spiritual

Hello Everyone and Happy 1st Day of December!!! Whaaatttt???? December already??? The last month of the year?! During this time, people of either focused on the holidays or maybe beginning to think about their goals for next year. Me….. I’ve been reflecting on this past year; as well as planning for next year. Upon reflection, I’ve thought about my life in terms of the 8 Dimensions of Wellness. The one that’s most prominent to me is the spiritual aspect; which is defined as: “Expanding a sense of purpose and meaning in life. I ask myself, am I fulfilling my purpose in the earth? I was reading through a couple of scientific studies for a project that I’m currently working on; and found that people who live with a sense of purpose are less likely to die prematurely, are more likely to take care of themselves, and deal with less stress.

So, how do you make sure your spiritual wellness is up to par? The answer lies in Luke 10:27…loving God with all that you are; and loving yourself and your neighbor. You can’t love God without a relationship with Him, no more than you can truly love a person who you don’t really know. By spending time with God each day and meditating His word, you learn to hear His voice. He gives us instruction and directs our steps (Proverbs 16:9); therefore ensuring, that we are fulfilling our purpose in life. I think that we sometimes get too caught up in our own lives and our own desires, that we fail in our awareness of God’s purpose and desires for us.

As this year draws to a close, and the pulse of a new one is upon us, I challenge you to draw closer to God and make His purpose for your life, your primary focus. Give Him your first and your best. Determine to conquer the covers by getting up 30 – 60 minutes earlier.  You are on the earth right now for such a time as this! One orphan (Queen Esther) changed the plight of an entire nation. What is your calling/purpose?! What great things are in you that the world needs, and only you can fulfill?

Summer 2018

Psalm 127:3 says that children are a gift from the Lord and a reward from Him. I truly believe this; although I have my moments when quiet, nap or bed time can’t get here fast enough. I then find myself missing them….and hovering at their bed sides in admiration, joy and gratitude. It’s still quite amazing to me that I’m the mother of FOUR children. Like WOW!!! I’m in awe every day. I especially enjoy Summer time for all of the fun outdoor activities; and just one layer of clothes!  It cuts down on my preparation time in getting out of the house, when we go somewhere. It’s nice to have that break from making sure that everyone has on their hats, scarves, boots, coats, mittens/gloves and snow suits. As the weather gets cooler and cooler, I have these fund memories from this past summer to keep me warm inside. Hope you enjoy the following video as much as I do!

What is this blog about?

I am so delighted to be sharing this blog! I have developed such a heart for homemakers. I’ve been a homemaker for 3 years; and the thing that I’ve observed is that many of the wives and mothers feel undervalued by their husbands and society; and/or like homemaking is not enough. Prior to becoming a full-time homemaker, I have to admit that I didn’t fully grasp or appreciate the high calling of a homemaker.  It is a full-time ministry and a management position, wrapped up in one colossal responsibility. In the realm of education, there are 7 areas of Family and Consumer Science (formerly known as Home Economics) which includes the following:

  1. Cooking/Nutrition
  2. Child Development
  3. Education and Community Awareness
  4. Home Management & Design
  5. Sewing & Textiles
  6. Budgeting & Economics
  7. Health & Hygiene

Some of the above listed areas are so extensive, that they are their very own major. As  homemakers, we do them all. What’s not on the list is minister or spiritual leader; which is a whole other level of leadership. Mamas/Wives, if you’ve ever felt that you don’t do enough, please do me a favor and say: “LIES!!! No more Satan!!”  Also, if you feel that you’re failing as a wife and mom; make a commitment to get up 10 minutes earlier than your family members, and spend that time with God. It will make a world of difference; as well as shift you in the direction of perpetual success.

I named this blog after the Proverbs 31 woman. Depending on what translation you read, verse 10 refers to her as a virtuous, capable, worthy, competent, strong character, valiant, good and excellent woman/wife. She is also a very successful woman. She wakes up early. She’s a homemaker and businesswoman. She owns real estate. She homeschools her children with wisdom; and she’s joyful. If you’re reading this blog, I dare say that there is something deep within you that’s saying I am this woman….once you get past the surface level lies.

In the three years that I’ve been home with my family, I’ve had to make God my only source….not my husband, jobs/business or anyone else. I have learned firsthand; how truly trusting God, has catapulted me to a level that I could not have ever gotten to on my own. In my future blogs, I will write about when God told me to stop working; and completely rely on Him. It was a STRUGGLE. I’ll also tell y’all about nothing less than miraculous provision; as well as a story that I’m sure will absolutely blow your minds!

Again, I implore you to get up just 10 minutes earlier and spend that time with God; and to listen to His instruction throughout the day. It will take you to places that you’ve NEVER even imagined! I’ve linked a confession that you can begin decreeing over yourself entitled: “Victorious Confessions for the Virtuous Woman.”  Until next time, have an EXCELLENT day!!!!